♥ ~ There is 8 Useful Question ~ ♥
1. Want To Date Your Crush ?
We've all been there. You have a crush who is a friend or colleague and you
want to ask her out. All you have to do is ask, right? But there's more to it.
Chances are, you might be thinking on how to get the ball rolling without
ruining the friendship. While it might seem like a piece of cake, there are
several things you need to keep in check before making that very move...
2. Her Action ?
First things first, does she like you? Most girls show their interest subtly but
you can sense rejections from the hints she drops. For instance, if she never
replies your text, you might think that she doesn't want to have anything to do
with you. But if she's been giving out mixed signals, she's probably trying to
get your attention and you should not feel discouraged just yet. Ask if she
receives the text from you. If she says "I forgot to reply." or "I was really
busy.", you can be sure that she's really not into you.
3. Be Bold Enough ?
Remember, she's not the only fish in the sea. Don't ever let the fear of
rejection get the better of you. Do you want to miss it out just because you're
afraid? And on the bright side, a 'no' doesn't mean that she won't say 'yes' in
the future. Put yourself in her shoes, who doesn't like a confident person?
You'd be surprised at how much it helps.
4. Be Clear ?
If you're afraid of being rejected, you tend to be vague. For example, you'd say
"Let's go out one day." or "Let's go out if you want." The problem is, more
often than not, the girl will reject you if you're being unclear. And most of
them find guys like that insincere. More importantly, she might nod and say
'okay' but you don't know for sure if she'd really go out with you. Plus, you'd
need to go through all over again to set a date with her. It's best to specify
when. So, appear nonchalant and try "Do you want to go out this Sunday?" Don't
worry if she'll be busy on that day. If she's interested, she'll suggest
alternatives. Even with rejection, at least you can stop wasting time and move
on faster.
5. Avoid Being Overly Eager ?
Never come off as a creeper by flooding her Facebook inbox or calling her up in
the middle of the night. And you reek of desperation when you say "Can you
please go out with me?" or "Why would you never go out with me?". Pulling off
that sympathy or emotional card will turn the girl off quicker than you think.
6. No ' Right ' Time ?
Fact is you're probably just afraid or deluding yourself into thinking that
there's a 'right' time to ask a girl out. You don't need to know a lot about her
for a date. And most think that by making her wait will instead pique her
curiosity. When you've hinted her your interest, don't wait too long before
initiating the move. She'd think that she might have picked up wrong signals
from you and she'll start losing interest.
7. Always Be Prepared For The Worst ?
Sometimes, she just doesn't have that feeling for you. Most girls are too nice
to take the direct approach when it comes to rejecting someone but know when to
give up. If she tells you she's crushing on someone else or not looking for a
relationship at the moment, it means she's making it crystal clear. We advise
you to move on to another prospect.
8. Failed ? Try Again... :)
So, it's a 'no'? Don't throw in the towel yet. If you really like your crush,
you can always try again. Be persistent (but not overly) and when done
correctly, she'll probably give you the chance and say 'yes' eventually. Wait a
few more weeks before asking her out again. Avoid being pushy or you'll end up
being treated like a stalker. She might give you the cold shoulder forever and
even cut contact with you.
